That Time of The Year, Again

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I am not looking forward to the holidays. I haven’t enjoyed them as much as I used to since way back in 2009. Some things happened that were beyond my control but, well, let’s just say that it took a therapist to help me get through them. I have blogged about that time of my life here before so I won’t go into it again.

When I was in my early 40s I looked forward to my 50s and 60s when my family would all gather together for the holidays. I always thought I’d have my children and grandchildren all around me. I envisioned reading Christmas stories to the grandkids and watching them hang their personalized ornaments on the tree. I could see the joy of the holidays in their eyes and the excitement of opening gifts. I loved the idea of sharing great food, movies, and traditions. To me, Christmas has always been about family.

Thanksgiving is all about family, too, in my opinion. I imagined having my family all around a big, crowded table, enjoying good food and good times. We’ve had my son and his family here for those dinners and my bestie (at the time) would come and we all had a good time. My bestie decided she was no longer interested in coming for those dinners, and recently I ended that friendship (for other reasons) so there are even fewer people at my imaginary table.

I don’t look forward to the holidays anymore. My life is filled with pain, mobility issues, and the stress of caring for my Dad. My grandkids are here and there, and the nearest hardly even know me. It’s depressing when I think about it so I try not to. But the holidays force the thoughts.

It’s lonely. There’s no joy in the holidays anymore. Sure, we’ve had ham or turkey dinners and a few gifts but I haven’t put up a tree in years. The last time I did, it was a small 1 footer, but I don’t even bother with that anymore. I don’t bother putting decorations up and I don’t even care to keep up the old traditions, or even the newer ones. Why bother with any of it if the kids and grandkids won’t be around to enjoy it with us?

This year, the grandkids will get a gift or 2 from Dad and me, and my kids will get a copy of my cookbook, (that I dedicated to them in the first place). Other than that, nothing special is planned. No tree, no celebration, no traditions, no big feast, no nothing.

Dad and I will stay home and eat junk food. Just kidding. Most likely, I will make simple meals or we’ll go out and eat. It’s depressing being alone and I know Dad feels it, too. He has great-grandchildren who don’t even know him for Pete’s sake! It’s a shame because Dad loves kids and would love to have his great-grandkids around him.

I won’t complain anymore. We’ll get through it; we always do. 

Friday’s Funnies – My Faves This Week – November 1, 2024

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I am seriously not ready for another week to end/begin. October was a rough month. My pain level has been up, my stress level topped as I worry about my own health issues, Dad’s health, and our financial situation which has yet to be determined. As my Granny used to say, “I don’t know whether to shit or go blind.”

I apologize to those who look forward to Friday’s Funnies each week. Some Fridays slip by me and other Fridays I just don’t have the energy to deal with it. I am forcing myself to post this collection today. I hope there’s something to make us all laugh here! Enjoy!

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My pick: Pot Holes, Sink Holes, Ass Holes, because that’s what life’s full of. Haha! I hope you got a chuckle out of at least a few of these memes! If you didn’t then: “Oh, No!” as Mr. Bill says. You remember him, don’t you? If not, then I guess you’re just not old enough!

Have a great weekend, friends! I hope this first day of November treats you well.

Until next time,

aunt-debbie

He Who Has Spoken…and Spoken…and Spoken…and Spoken…

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“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time,” often attributed to Maya Angelou, meaning that when someone reveals their true nature or character, trust that this is who they really are and don’t try to ignore or excuse their behavior.

So, why are there not enough people listening to what Donald Trump is telling us?

Think about this for a minute. Donald Trump has told us exactly what he plans to do if he wins this election.

He said that this would be the last election if he wins. What the hell does that mean? Is he going to do away with elections in this country? Will we never be able to vote again? That’s concerning, isn’t it?

He said he will jail his political opponents. He said he’s going to revoke the broadcast licenses of media outlets that oppose him. So, will he also jail anyone who opposes him?

He wants to reimpose his travel ban to keep people from Muslim countries from entering the US. This would ban “dangerous lunatics, haters, bigots, and maniacs” and that’s hilarious, considering it’s a pretty accurate description of Trump, himself!

He will end transgender rights. He wants to cut funding to hospitals and health care providers to prevent care for those transgender people. Surely everyone in this country has a family member or knows someone or knows of someone who is transgender. So, imagine someone you care about losing their rights to gender-affirming surgery, treatment, or therapies.

He wants to terminate the Department of Education. He says under his administration, kids will be taught to love their country and not to hate it as they are being taught now. On the surface, that sounds nice, doesn’t it? It sounds to me like he wants to dictate what is being taught. Which is hilarious, considering he doesn’t know a damn thing about anything! Until he submits his school grades, I will stick to my opinion of him, which is that he doesn’t know his ass from a hole in the ground! In a game of “Are You Smarter Than A 5th Grader,” he would freakin’ lose his ass.

He says police should be empowered to shoot suspected shoplifters in the act. Keyword: suspected. Whatever happened to “innocent until proven guilty”?

He is fixated on those he believes have wronged him. He wants to use the military against people he claims are the “enemy within;” The Department of Justice, Adam Schiff, Nancy Pelosi, journalists, CBS News, and the list goes on. Do you honestly think he will stop there? What makes you think that he won’t eventually go after YOU? Eventually, power will go to his head, (even more than it is already) and he will come after those of us who have something to say about him, against him, or about something he has done.

When will we stop and realize, actually understand, what he is telling us? He’s definitely not a good person. Why would you vote for someone who has demonstrated time and time again that they are not a good person?

Anyone who calls certain countries “shithole countries” is not a good person.

Anyone who calls this country “the garbage can for the world” is not a good person.

Someone who tells us and shows us repeatedly what they think about poor people, people of color, women, science, LGBTQ+ people, disabled people, etc., is not a good person.

Someone who calls people names, harasses and intimidates people is not a good person.

Someone who lies about everything is not a good person.

Why would you vote for someone who is not a good person?

I think, and this is my speculation, that half if not more of those who are supporting Trump, will do so for one or more of the following reasons:

  1. They do not want a woman to be President,
  2. They do not a person of color to be President, or
  3.  They do not want a Democrat to be President.

I say, COUNTRY over party for crying out loud. At least Kamala Harris is trying to unite us and is working for all of us. We may not agree with everything she says, but she is a much better choice than Donald Trump could ever be!

We will be in deep shit if Trump is elected again. Dictatorship. Plain and simple. Mark my words.

The Night Dad Scared The H*ll out of Me

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It’s getting to be too much for both of us. Getting groceries, that is. I always place a curbside order once a week. I try to limit items to no more than 20. It never fails I end up with more than 20 because one of us forgot we needed toilet paper or paper towels or something else.

Dad and I pick up the order, which is the easy part. (Good grief, I hope Walmart never discontinues this service!) When we get home, I load bags of groceries into a utility cart. Heavier items go on the bottom, of course. Dad pulls the cart up the ramp and into the house. The problem is, we still have some heavy items like water and kitty litter. I use our lunch cart for those items; I bring the cart to the door and Dad carries those items to the door and puts them on the cart. It’s not far because I pull right up to the ramp. When all is unloaded, I tell Dad to go change his clothes so he can sit and rest. I unload the groceries from the utility cart and put things away.

Dad changed his clothes and sat down in his chair to rest. He was exhausted and went to sleep. He fell asleep off and on for the rest of the day. Later, he watched a movie or something on the Firestick. I was in the kitchen doing a puzzle, listening to an audiobook.

When it crept closer to 10pm, which is his bedtime, I knew he had fallen asleep because he was so quiet. Normally, I hear him cough, laugh, talk to one of the cats, or more often than not, drop something like the remote. He falls asleep in his chair all the time so I didn’t think twice about it…until it was 10:15 and he was still not even getting ready for bed. Usually, he gets ready for bed around 9:45.

I went to check on him and there he was fast asleep. I saw his chest rising and falling but he was out like a light! I called out to him to tell him what time it was. He didn’t wake up. I called out louder and still, he didn’t wake up. I sat down in my chair to give the furbabies their Temptations snacks, as per our normal routine. Trust me, they were all sitting by my chair waiting. They knew it was past time! 

I kept trying to wake Dad, getting louder and still, nothing. Finally, I touched his hand and tried again to wake him. He just would not wake up! I shook his arm; still nothing. I shook harder and finally, thank God, he woke up! He scared me to death. I thought I had lost him. I just cried in a huge wave of relief. He had no idea what was going on. 

I dread the day I have to say goodbye to this man who has truly been there for me my entire life. He is closer to a best friend than I’ve ever had in my life. (Even closer than the best friend I actually had, who come to find out, was judging me all along.) He has helped me raise my kids when their father couldn’t be bothered to write to them. We have shared many things, including finances and health issues.

Losing Dad will be the biggest loss I will ever face. 

Friday’s Funnies – My Faves This Week – October 4, 2024

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I can’t believe how quickly this week went by! Considering how rotten the week has been for my Dad and I, I thought the week would have drug by like molasses during a snowstorm! Hmmm… Anyway, I tried getting this post out this morning, but I was having problems with my internet being extremely slow and WordPress seemed to be having issues as well. I couldn’t upload any of my funnies so I gave up until now. Things are working ok at the moment.

I hope you enjoy this week’s funnies. It’s not a huge collection but it’s not tiny either! Have a great evening and let me know in the comments what you think about this week’s funnies! Enjoy!

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Do you have a favorite or maybe two favorites? I think my two faves are Stranger Convo and You Can See Me? I like the age-old Bear Question, also!

I hope you’ve had a good week and your weekend is even better! Thank goodness the weather is cooling down! Once winter sets in, at least the bugs and spiders go back from whence they came!

See you later!

aunt-debbie