Saturday Morning Funny Find

As I opened Facebook first thing this morning, I find this and if I had seen it before I would have included it in yesterday’s post “Friday’s Funnies – Bird Edition.” I don’t know what it is about stick arms drawn onto animals, especially birds, that cracks me up so much but it does. I think someone at some point, had way too much time on their hands! I mean, I bet their toilet needed to be cleaned or kids needed to be fed or something. Oh, well. What entertainment!! Enjoy your Saturday, friends!

 

Jack’s Pack

Just a few days ago, just for fun, I launched a new Facebook page in honor of my furbabies. I thought why the heck not? Some friends and relatives have told me they enjoy reading about my cats and love seeing photos. Maybe they’re just being nice! Ha! Doesn’t matter… I’m having fun doing it and I’m always looking for ways to be creative. Besides, cat pages are all the rage on facebook!

If you’re interested, and it’s ok if you’re not, you’re welcome to check out “Jack’s Pack” at https://www.facebook.com/jackspackoftrouble and let me know what you think. I hope you like it and if you have any suggestions, I’m always open.

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Oh, and if you haven’t checked out Being Aunt Debbie on Facebook, please do! I’d love to connect with you!

Thanks bunches,

Aunt Debbie

Getting My Groove Back

im-currently-in-the-process-of-getting-my-groove-back-20395966I’m not much of a people person. I never have been. I enjoy my alone time. Solitude. It’s what makes me tick. I enjoy being by myself. I accomplish so much when I am left to my own devices. When there are others around, I tend to get caught up in never-ending conversations, and other things that distract me from being productive.

The internet has caused me to be very unproductive. I’ve spent too much time on Facebook as of late, and the negativity has pulled me down into a black hole. I normally just let it roll off me like water off a duck’s back, but eventually, the accumulation of negative bullshit starts eating away at me and I react. Sometimes I over-react. That’s just how I’m wired. I can’t seem to control it.

This time, I took some time away from the negative posts and the people that post them. Back to solitude, the joy of being alone. The internet and the connection with others is grand, however, it becomes too crowded at times. Too many opinions, too much division, hatred, and misinformation. If you spend any time at all on Facebook, then you know what I’m talking about. You’ve got the conspiracy theories, the anti-government and anti-everything else posts. There are the animal abuse photos, and photos of battered and bruised women or children. Let’s not forget about the political crap. I don’t need to know nor do I give a crap what others believe about the current POTUS. And trust me, you really don’t want to know what I think either. Religion, in my opinion, should be kept private. It is none of my business what anyone else’s religious beliefs are, and my beliefs are my business. I am so tired of the assumption that if you “do this” or “don’t do that” then you’re going to hell.

Anyway, you get it I’m sure. The negativity eats away at your soul and slowly devours you….unless you stop it dead in its tracks.

My time away has been peaceful. Yes, I am still posting to my blog page and responding to messages and comments. On my personal page, I am still checking in on occasion. Since going low-key I have become more productive. I’m writing more. I’m reading more. I am nearly finished with a crochet baby blanket for my newest grandbaby when he arrives in September. I have made gift tags for my soap party favors for the baby shower next month. I’ll be making the soap sometime this week. I’m finding my groove again!

It feels good to step back. The connection Facebook provides can be a wonderful thing. I LOVE that I can check in on my friends and family without making a call, waiting for a letter in the mail, or driving several miles for a visit. But enough is enough. I’m feeling more balanced these past few days. I’m getting my groove back, as they say.

This….

….is why I love Facebook.

 

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                                          Image Copyright Being Aunt Debbie

 

Why do I love Facebook? I love it because I can control what I see and who I connect with. (Not counting the stupid ads that show up on my feed.) I can connect or disconnect with my friends, family, and acquaintances. I love being able to see what the people I care about are up to, what’s going on in their lives. I’m disabled so that matters to me. I am unable to just pick up and go visit the people I care about. Facebook allows me the joy of keeping in touch with those people.

I love that I can see photos of my kids and grandkids. I love seeing what they are up to these days. I don’t get to see them often, and I look forward to holiday photos, school photos, and just messin’ around photos.

I love that I can share things with my friends and family. It could be something funny or a photo of Dad or me….or one of the cats.

I love that I can send positive thoughts, a cyber hug, or some type of inspiration to a friend or family member when they might be feeling down.

I love that I can send a private message (pm) to someone just to check in and say or give them emotional support.

I love the multitudes of cat pages I follow because it makes me smile to see cat photos. I love cats, in case you didn’t already know this. 😉

I love seeing funny memes and videos. Who doesn’t like to laugh? 😀

I love the links that actually lead me to articles about things I’m interested in. I sometimes learn things I may or may not have ever known.

I love when others share their home improvement projects.

I love to see nature photos, especially now when Spring is….springing.

I love that Facebook allows small businesses to connect with people (customers) and that mattered to me when I had my own home business. It was a great outlet and I love seeing other home businesses bloom and expand.

So, you see….there are many reasons to love Facebook but if you don’t, that’s your prerogative. Most of us have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. I suppose I do, too. The positive outweighs the negative, most of the time. I won’t lie, though. Many times, I just have to step away for a day or so and de-stress. Sometimes I have to clean out my “Facebook closet” because it makes things much simpler. 😉

 

Good Reasons To Unfriend Someone On Facebook

Today, a good friend of mine posted a selfie to show off her new hair-do. She has only twice posted a photo of herself and she’s been on Facebook for years. A “friend” of hers commented in part, “I am totally against close up selfies, and I always unfriend,” and then she promptly unfriended her. That really stuck in my crawl! I mean, who the f*ck unfriends someone for something in such a ridiculous and childish manner? There are very good reasons to unfriend a person, but THAT was not one of them!

I have unfriended a few people in the 10+ years I’ve been on Facebook but mostly I just “unfollow.” It seems the better alternative to offending someone or hurting their feelings, especially when the reasons are that you’ve just been annoyed one too many times. Unfollowing allows you to still be friends on Facebook, but their posts stop showing up on your feed.

There are great (and reasonable) reasons to unfriend people on Facebook. Below are some of those reasons.

  1. Racism – Posting anything of this nature should be an automatic unfriending in my opinion.
  2. Promoting violence of any kind – This is not cool!
  3. Religious and/or political fanaticism – Everyone has the right to his or her own opinions and ideas but that doesn’t mean that everyone wants to hear about it and they shouldn’t have to unless asked.
  4. Inappropriate language and/or content, nudity – Come on. Have some class! I mean, I have the vocabulary of a sailor, to be honest, but I try to have a little respect for others.
  5. Promoting hate/hate crimes – Same as #2. Not cool.
  6. Stalker-ish behavior – If someone seems to be visiting your page and commenting on everything you post, if they send you messages all the time, or if they just give you a creepy feeling, unfriend and BLOCK.
  7. Stirring up trouble for other people – No one needs added drama in their lives. We all have enough of that sh*t without help. Am I right?
  8. Airing personal problems – Personal issues should be settled privately, not for all of Facebook to see.
  9. Spreading lies, half-truths, and rumors – Unfriend quickly. No one needs a friend like this.
  10. Constant negativity – Things can’t always be that bad and if they are, why is that person on Facebook instead of getting his/her sh*t together?
  11. Constant soliciting – Who wants to be bombarded with private messages or posts on their feed of things someone is trying to sell?
  12. Disrespectful comments, back-stabbing, and lack of honesty, integrity, kindness – There’s enough of this in the world. We don’t need to see it or read it on Facebook.
  13. Perpetuating fake news – When someone just shares meme after meme without any common sense thinking or research, cut ’em loose. I mean, we all can make a mistake and share something that’s not true, but the fake “facts” floating around the internet are absurd.
  14. Posting things on your timeline that are totally irrelevant – If someone constantly posts links to horse riding school on my timeline when I’m not even remotely interested in horses, that’s unfriending material right there.
  15. Bragging about their perfect life and how happy they are – No one’s life is perfect, and no one likes a bragger.
  16. Posting spoilers on tv shows or movies on a regular basis that you haven’t seen yet – Either unfriend or unfollow. It’s just not nice for them to try and ruin things for others.
  17. Constantly whining about problems and never doing anything to resolve those problems – Come on, if someone has a problem and they need help, asking for help is great. But constantly whining and not doing anything to resolve the issues is grounds for unfriending. Enough is enough.
  18. Anti-government, anti-establishment, anti-everything posts – Negativity, in general, is a real buzzkill.
  19. Making judgemental comments about your life – No one knows your journey so unfriend without feeling guilty.
  20. Super-opinionated and/or insulting comments on your posts – No one needs this kind of stress. Unfriend.
  21. Hunting/killing and dead animal photos – Some people enjoy hunting, the thrill of the kill….others do not. This type of thing really hurts my heart.
  22. Continual conspiracy theory posts – I can’t believe how many seemingly intelligent people believe so many of these theories. I’m not saying they’re all untrue theories but if something is covered up, doesn’t that mean that many people have to keep their mouths shut?? We all know people can’t keep their traps shut. Lol.
  23. Grammar Nazis – Ok, so I’m not exactly a Grammar Nazi because I make errors sometimes….but I do try to spell correctly and use punctuation. I also try to use complete sentences. BUT I don’t insult people on their posts for others to read. Not classy at all.
  24. Links that make you sad – Maybe it’s a story of the abuse of an animal or a child, maybe it’s something else that really hurts your heart. I pass them by quickly or hide from my timeline. Sometimes I unfriend.
  25. Terrible friend/relative – If someone did you or a family member terribly wrong, then by all means, unfriend.

 

So, that’s my list of reasons to unfriend someone on Facebook. I’m sure there are others that escaped my mind, and there are always exceptions to the ones I listed. You may or may not agree, and that’s perfectly fine. You didn’t have to read this and if you think about it, my opinion isn’t hurting anyone now is it?

Do you have any other reasons one might unfriend someone on Facebook?