10 Year Blogaversary

I can’t believe it’s been 10 years since I started blogging! Of course, no one read my blog back then because I kept it rather quiet. I wasn’t writing for anyone but me and it was therapeutic. It was personal. I was going through the worst time of my life and blogging was a way for me to release it, send it away.

I signed on to WordPress on August 16, 2008. My very first post came just a few days later. I remember that day and I was in a panic. I’m pretty sure what I was feeling was close to how a parent of a missing child feels — the panic, uncertainty, fear, worry….and then in my case, anger set in. Give it a read and you’ll understand what I mean.

Anyway, it wasn’t until a little over a year ago that I decided to step out of my comfort zone and make my blog more ‘visible’ to others. I started interacting with other bloggers and my number of followers increased. I also started a Facebook page for this blog, so that I could more easily share with my friends and family.

I never started blogging to gain followers. I like that some people follow and interact but the number isn’t important to me. I like to connect with people on a more personal level. I like that some people can identify with what I’m writing about or that they find it humorous. I don’t care about those who think personal blogs are boring. I’m not blogging for them. I’m blogging for me and those who care to read it.

I’m not a people pleaser anymore! If someone doesn’t like my blog, for whatever reason, they don’t have to read it. I don’t read blogs that are boring to me, either. I also don’t read blogs that shamelessly beg for donations, or always promote some product, unless of course, it’s something I am interested in purchasing). And blogs that spout the same information over and over again? Boring. I’m not saying those blogs don’t appeal to some people; they most certainly do, but they don’t appeal to me.

I appreciate those who read, follow, and comment on my posts. I just wish I had more time to read all of the wonderful, insightful, and humorous blogs out there!! Please feel free to include your blog URL in the comments below!

Thanks for reading my friends!! I appreciate you more than you know!

~~Deb

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The Liebster Award

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Thank you, Novus Lectio, for the nomination! Her blog can be found here: https://novuslectio.wordpress.com/ . Please stop by and pay her a visit! Her blog is full of thought-provoking posts and drawings.

Rules

Acknowledge the blog who nominated you and display award.

Answer 11 questions the blogger gives you.

Give 11 random facts about yourself.

Nominate 11 blogs and notify them of the nomination.

 

11 Questions given to me:

  1. What is your favorite meal? Pizza and beer
  2. Destiny or choice? Choice
  3. What is your favorite time of year and why? Fall; not too hot and not too cold
  4. If you could go back in time, what would you change? I would stand up to my ex and not allow him to make me feel inferior.
  5. Name your favorite book. The House of Thunder by Dean Koontz
  6. Name 3 of your favorite blogs/bloggers and why. Becky, because she’s very knowledgeable about herbs and oils,  Karen, because she’s a great writer and an awesome photographer, and Lori’s personal journal which she shares only with friends, because it’s very relatable.
  7. What’s a perfect moment? Quiet understanding of another person and total respect.
  8. If you had to save one personal item from a fire, what would it be? A photo album of my family.
  9. Who has been the biggest, most positive influence in life? My Dad.
  10. When you read, what genre do you most often read? Thrillers
  11. If you could be an animal, what animal would it be and why? A cat. Cats are intelligent, loving and fascinating animals.

 

11 Random Facts About Me:

  1. I have 6 cats. (Go figure!)
  2. I love hard rock and metal music.
  3. I love medieval history and my nickname online is “castlefreak.”
  4. I love spending time by myself.
  5. I sometimes experience hyper-vigilant anxiety.
  6. I worked in a nursing home as a CNA/CMT for several years.
  7. I love to crochet.
  8. I use to be a cross-country backpacker.
  9. I taught myself code in order to build a website for my home business.
  10. I had to shut down my home business in 2010 due to disability.
  11. I use to run a daycare in my home when my children were small.

 

11 Blogs I Nominate:

https://dickbishop.wordpress.com/

http://herbmamaswords.blogspot.com/

https://onceuponyourprime.com/

https://mainepaperpusher.wordpress.com/

https://freetoexpress91.wordpress.com/

https://rothpoetry.wordpress.com/

https://simplyjessicaruth.wordpress.com/

https://longtallally.com/

https://bensbitterblog.com/

https://inamessyworld.wordpress.com/

https://dattaragurl.wordpress.com/

 

 

 

 

Blogger Recognition Award!

Thank you, Novus Lectio, for the nod! I apologize for taking so long to accept this award! Novus Lectio’s blog can be found here: https://novuslectio.wordpress.com – please stop by and give it a read!

Here are the rules for accepting this award

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  • Write a post to show your award.
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started.
  • Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
  • Select 10 other bloggers you want to give this award to.

 

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How my blog got started:

I was entering a new phase of my life. I was about to become a grandmother. Starting a blog seemed like the perfect way to share my life and my loves, although it turned out to be more of a therapeutic project. It remains very therapeutic for me. I have just recently made my blog more public (through Facebook @ https://www.facebook.com/BeingAuntDebbie/) and have tried to write more than I use to. There were times that other things got in the way of my creativity and if you have read my past posts you may know exactly what I’m talking about. This blog is about making my way through this life, down whatever road it takes me.

My advice to new bloggers:

  1. Write what you know and about your passions. Just write!
  2. Don’t let anyone belittle you for your writing, opinions, passions or anything else. Just be you and write what you like!

 

It was difficult for me to pick 10 bloggers — there are so many great blogs out there! Most of the blogs I follow are on other blog formats, like Blogger, but I figured I should nominate those who are on wordpress like I am. I don’t always get to read every blog every day and that makes me sad! Here goes!

I nominate:

Karen @ https://icedteawithlemon.wordpress.com/

mainepaperpusher  @ https://mainepaperpusher.wordpress.com/

Jamie @  https://simplesoapariesoap.wordpress.com/

DGGYST @ http://damngirlgetyourshittogether.com/

megclift @  http://megspot.com/

Chelsea @ https://chelseaunfiltered.wordpress.com/

Sugar ‘nd Spice @ https://dattaragurl.wordpress.com/

Ganesh @ https://lifeonplanetearth2017.wordpress.com/

superwifeandmummy @ https://babieslifefamilygoodfood.wordpress.com

Kira @ https://bloggymcblogface446.wordpress.com/

My Blog, My Drama

I started this blog way back in 2008. It was a way for me to express myself through the turmoil that had just begun. It was therapeutic.

It has always been difficult for me to express myself verbally. I attribute that to the fact that my mother stifled me every chance she got. My opinion wasn’t important. My feelings didn’t matter. I was the child and children were to be seen and not heard.

Into adulthood, my ex treated me just about the same way. I found myself having to explain what I meant at every turn. I learned to keep my mouth shut. It was just easier than having to explain myself constantly. I think that’s what he was aiming for anyway. That was his way of stifling me like my mother always did.

So, anyway…. 2008 began with a series of events that became even more troubling as time went on. I needed an outlet. I had to do something to keep myself from going bonkers. I started writing. I hadn’t started seeing my therapist yet; that came a few years later. I think Dr. M would be very proud of me taking this blog to another level, stepping out of my comfort zone. Being Aunt Debbie has always been public, but I never advertised or shared it, except with a few choice people. I am definitely out of my comfort zone!

In July, I decided to share, share, share. I decided to let Google index my blog. I started interacting with other bloggers; I commented on their blogs, and in turn, I received a very warming acceptance. I received comments on my posts. I even started a Facebook page to pair with my blog. It has been a positive experience, for the most part.

The part that isn’t positive is when I receive confrontational comments on my posts, which have nothing to do with the post. Let me just say that I don’t do confrontational. This is MY blog. So, only MY drama is allowed. I don’t have time for your BS. Don’t like my blog? Don’t read it. Don’t like my attitude? Don’t follow me; not on WordPress, not on Facebook, not on Instagram.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not always right. My opinions differ at times. I can handle a discussion about different topics, even when opinions differ. What I can’t handle….no, what I won’t handle is YOUR attitude if you come off confrontational. I’m not trying to be a bitch. I’m just keeping it real. Real simple. Be nice or go home.