Study: Listening To Heavy Metal Makes You Calmer

Haha! And I thought it was just me all this time! I can honestly say that heavy metal or any other hard, loud, raunchy, angry music can sure make me feel better! It’s like the music and the emotions coming from the artist rip the anger and pain right out of me, calming me down to that level-headed, caring, sensible person I usually am! If you aren’t a fan of heavy metal or hard rock, give it a shot some time when you’re in a really pissy mood.  Just feel the negativity ooze right out of you!

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For most of my adult life I have been a caregiver. Even before I graduated from high school, I worked at an elementary school, working with special ed children. Then when I had my own children I worked a Day Care in my own home. I did that for years. I worked as a CNA/CMT (Certified Nurse’s Aide and Certified Medication Technician) for several years in a Nursing Home – again, caring for other people.  I was always ready and eager to help someone, family or not. I always tried to be there for my sisters, grandmother, dad, my friends, and my children. As my kids grew older, they needed me less. They are now grown and living elsewhere. The problem with them growing older is that so am I! I am in my 50’s now and my health isn’t what it once was. I can’t do what I use to do.

I’m currently taking care of my dad, who is nearly 80 years old. He still takes care of himself for the most part but I make sure he takes his meds, gets to his appointments, eats right, has clean clothes etc. It’s getting harder for me to take care of things as I did before. I can’t clean the house the way it should be cleaned due to my chronic pain issues. Dad helps with things I can’t reach – he’s tall and I’m very short. He helps keep the kitchen clean. When I cook, he washes the dishes. He helps me keep the bathroom clean and does a multitude of tasks around the house so that I don’t have to. He even folds clothes! I appreciate what he does to help me, and he appreciates what I do to help him. It’s nice to be appreciated….

I feel that Dad really is my best friend and probably the ONLY person I can count on in this world for moral support when I need it. The problem is that most of my friends and my sisters live in other states. Extended family all live in other states. My kids have their own lives to lead, their own problems, etc. I virtually have no one to hold my hand and lend me an ear….except Dad. He doesn’t understand many things women go through, or things I personally have been through. It doesn’t always help to have him to lean on. In fact, sometimes it makes things worse. He’s a man. (I’d like to see men go through some of the shit women go through on a daily basis and see how well they cope!)

I guess I’m just feeling bummed these days. I sit here alone most of the time with my Facebook friends and family….and Dad. This is probably where I will still be in 5 years.

Should I….

I have been told countless times that I should be a writer. I do have a lot to say, and there are millions of things hopping around in my brain just waiting to get out! I don’t think I’m a particularly good writer, but I like writing and it would be great to be able to let people know who I really am! There are so many things I want my children, grandchildren and friends to know about me and my life. They always say, “Write what you know.” And what I know is my life.

To be continued……

Adult Bullies – Everywhere!

I’ve been seeing a lot of bullying on Facebook lately. I can’t believe the unmitigated nerve some people have! My own experience has left me in total disbelief! Can you believe someone said to me, “You’re one of those people who need to be hanged!” All because I had a different opinion! If someone were to say that to my face, they’d probably get popped in the nose. People seem to think they are so important that they can be rude and bully people — all over a difference of opinion!

Opinions are not right nor wrong. They are opinions. Everyone has the right to their own opinion, regardless of what others think. If you want to be respected for YOUR opinion then you must show some respect for others’ opinions. Simple as that. You don’t have the right to belittle or bully ANYONE! That’s what middle-schoolers do! Grow up!

Funny story…..

I went to Walmart today after my appointment and pulled into a parking spot next to another car on my left. I had this song playing, and if you know me then you know I had the volume up pretty loud. My window was down about 4 inches or so. I sat there for a minute, checking my phone and responding to a message. I rolled up the window, turned off the car and got out. That’s when I noticed this kid in the car next to me, plugged into an ipod. He looked like he was around 15 years old. He pulled the earphone out of his ear and asked, “What are you listening to?” I told him, “Swedish Death Metal. What are you listening to?” He says, “Nothin’.” I had to laugh because I imagined he was listening to something sappy like Justin Beiber or some other nit-witted pop idol. I also imagine he has never seen an old lady like me listening to Swedish Death Metal…or any metal at all. LMAO!

It made my day!