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They/Them Pronouns

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By now, many of us have a non-binary loved one or at least know someone who is non-binary. It still seems weird to me, as it probably does to most people. I mean, we are born male or female, right? A non-binary person is one who does not exclusively identify as male or female. It’s hard for me to imagine or understand this, however, who the hell am I to disagree with how anyone identifies? No one has the right to disagree with how someone feels about themselves or how they identify. Even if we don’t understand it. Even if we don’t like it. Even if we think it’s not how God intended things to be. We all need to learn to just back off and let people be who they want to be; let people be who they are. It’s none of our damn business.

My biggest complaint about the non-binary person is that we are expected to use the pronouns they or them instead of he/him or she/her. I think most will agree that it’s difficult to do this because we were taught how to use pronouns as we were growing up. Sometimes it just doesn’t sound right when you’re used to saying, “Does he want a cupcake?” to now say without stumbling over the words, “Do they want a cupcake?” Or is it “Does they want a cupcake?” See, it’s confusing. One way sounds better but at the same time, they is usually used when speaking of more than one person. It could be confusing and we might say it incorrectly.

Anyway, back to my complaint. If the non-binary person expects us to use their preferred pronouns, then I expect in return that they be patient with those of us who find it hard to get used to. Just give us a little slack as we try to relearn what we were taught growing up.

Simple respect and understanding goes both ways.

Update and What’s Eating Aunt Debbie?

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Work on the house was slowed for a couple of weeks. Our contractor was sick and had some other difficulties. This past week, work resumed. I wish it was going faster. I am so sick of this old crappy house. It’ll get done, I know. Patience. I know. I don’t have much patience in my 60s.

We took BobCat to the vet earlier in the month. He had lost weight, 2 lbs. to be exact. I don’t think that’s accurate. He seems heavier to me. Anyway, he got his vaccinations. He was not happy with me until we headed home. They always know. They cry all the way and then not a peep out of them on the drive home. I was a bit worried about the poor thing afterward, though. He was lethargic for 2 days and he felt like he might have had a little fever for the first day. He snapped out of it. It’s not unusual for cats to have those symptoms after vaccinations. There are worse symptoms so I am grateful that his symptoms were mild.

I’ve just about had it with the USPS. I am signed up for Informed Delivery and receive an email daily letting me know what mail and/or packages I have coming that day. But what good is it when it’s wrong? I’ll get an email that says I have 2 packages out for delivery but they don’t come. When I check tracking on those packages, it says that they are “moving through the system” or “on its way to the next facility” or even, “awaiting sender” and I just blow a gasket! If it says “out for delivery” that tells me it’s in our mail carrier’s car. So how can it go from that to “moving through the system” or “on its way to next facility”? One package I tracked since Jan. 8th, when it was ordered. Every few days tracking would say something different, even “out for delivery”. But I never got it until Feb. 7th. Wtf? It just chaps my hide that the USPS continues to raise rates while their service declines.

Do you ever feel like you’re speaking a foreign language? Every single time (and I’m not exaggerating) I have to contact a business for some reason, the response is always wrong. It has nothing to do with my issue and it infuriates me. It could be a phone call or an email. I always have to explain the problem again, as if I’m talking to a moron…hey, maybe they are morons, I don’t know. I go round and round with sometimes more than one person. Turn me over. I’m just about done.

I’m not even sure what to say about what’s going on with our government these days. Maybe I’ll just keep my mouth shut. I think eventually none of us will be able to speak out against Trump. Freedom of Speech will someday be a thing of the past. I’m thinking of deleting my Facebook account. That’s the first place that will be scanned for “radical liberals”. I hate to leave Facebook because that’s the only way I can connect with family and friends. I deleted my accounts on Twitter (X) and Instagram, and I tried BlueSky but it’s so much like Twitter that I am deleting that account, too. Social Media has ruined this country. Ugh.

On a brighter note, Dad and I are having a “Super Bowl Party” tonight like we do every year. He and I are the only ones invited! Haha! Just a funny thing we do to amuse ourselves. I’m going to make hot wings and some kind of bean dip, not sure what recipe to use yet. I only watch the Super Bowl for the commercials. Sometimes they are hilarious!

Well, I just wanted to let y’all know I’m still alive and kicking, well not kicking. More like having a seizure. Ha! Have a great week, my friends!