Stronger and Better

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If you’ve been following my blog, you know that my Dad suffered a fall and heat stroke on July 4th. I was worried that he would be leaving this world. I was not sleeping or eating. I was a nervous wreck. A lot of drama happened. It was exhausting.

I was back and forth to the hospital in our car, which was in dire need of repair. I didn’t know how bad it actually was until several weeks later! When my sister and I were finally able to take the car in, we were told that it was too dangerous to drive and that we were lucky to have made it there! We were urged NOT to drive it home (they wouldn’t be able to get it done in the short time left in the day), and we were promptly given a ride home. The bands in the tires were twisted, and one was ready to explode! A rod was bent, and some other crazy shit I was not expecting. I mean, you can’t tell by looking at the car, but Dad and I regularly take it in for check-ups, tune-ups, oil changes, and all that good stuff. I can’t understand why it was so bad. Anyway, the problem has been fixed. The bill was a whopping $1,371.52!!

Next, the a/c has been out of commission for a couple of years, and Dad never wanted to spend the money on it. Ok, I get it. But now, after Dad’s heat stroke, it needs to be fixed! I cannot take him to his appointments in this heat! I took it in a week ago to have them look at it. Instead of it being the condenser (as we were told by another mechanic), it turned out to be the evaporator. I had to bring the car home again, with no a/c because they need all day to get it done. That will cost another $1,300 or more because they have to pull out the dash, and the whole process is a huge job. I am bringing the car in first thing in the morning and getting a loaner because there’s no way I’m sitting there all day long! Then, I have to get a safety inspection on the car. Does this shit never end?!

Dad has weekly visits from a Home Health Nurse, Physical Therapist, and Occupational Therapist. He has really come a long way since he first came home. He stands on his own and walks with a walker. He’s really bored out of his skull because he can’t do anything without me or my sister. He’s not quite ready for that. He has a little ways to go, and then he will be able to sleep in a real bed instead of that stiff and uncomfortable hospital bed. I’d say a few more weeks, and then my son can come get the damn thing.

With my sister’s help, the living room can go back to the way it was, and I can get the bedroom ready for Dad. I’ll wash the bedding and remove some boxes of stuff. I know he’s ready to sleep in a real bed!

I called a couple of guys to come look at the new house. Since the first guy decided that other jobs were more important than finishing ours, I had no choice but to seek out other contractors. One guy came out yesterday. He knows our remaining budget and thinks he can get the house livable for us. The other guy will come by this weekend. Maybe between the two, we will be ready to move into our new home in a couple of months. I guess that will also depend on when they can start.

I can honestly say, while Dad is getting stronger and better, so am I. I refuse to ask certain people for help. I will never ask for help again just to have things thrown in my face later. I don’t need people in my life who pull that petty shit with me.

I will keep you all posted! With any luck, 2025 will end with us getting some good luck instead of bad for a change!

Until next time,

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  1. My friend, I’m so glad that dad is getting better by the day! And you need to take care of yourself as well, I know that you are but, sometimes we need reminders that we are only human and can do so much by ourselves. I’m also glad you sis is there, although I do know she was going to leave soon. But when the house is finally livable, she’s coming back to live with you, right? I hope so because it’s a lot of work to take care of an elderly parent. It’s like they become kids all over again and they regress into that mentality, or at least my mom has. I understand about your car as well, it’s like a money pit, lol. I’ve tried to keep my 15 year old car maintained as much as possible. But it gets hard when it’s one thing after another, I know breaks are expensive and my brother use to do those for me. But he and I have had a falling out, because he’s an idiot and I just wont deal with his stupid ass. So, now I’m looking at $1200 for just breaks alone, can you imagine that? My oldest maintains my car for the simple stuff like tunes ups, part changes and anything he can figure out and do. I changed my started last year with his help, so I know how much money it costs to keep the car in driving condition. I can’t afford a new one right now even with this job, because I’m still trying to pay down some of my debt. I sure hope that one of the new contractors can give you a fair price and a quality job so you all can move in and stop worrying about the old house.

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    • I’m sorry you and your brother had a falling out. If I had a brother, he’d probably be stupid, too. Lmao.

      With the tires, a/c, etc. costing over $2600, that’s taking away from what we have for the new house. Which sucks. Why does shit have to cost so damn much? Geez.

      Yes, thankfully my sister is coming back when the new house is done. I can’t do this (Dad) without help. If I were not disabled then it would be a different story. Sis has 3 cats she left back in TN with other sis and relatives to take care of. I feel bad. She misses them so much. 😦 Anyway, fingers crossed that between the 2 new guys they will get the house done for us.

      I hope your situation at work works out for you. Keep me posted! 🙂 Hugs ❤

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  2. Good to hear things are progressing well. I hope the contractors work out and you can get into the house soon. Yes, it is a good idea to get that AC in the car fixed. It is one of the more expensive repairs though unfortunately. Take good care of both of you. Stay cool!

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