ViewPoint Intro

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I spent most of my childhood (and into my teens) being stifled by my mother. She always made me feel that I had no voice. I was told that since I was a child, I was to be seen and not heard. I was taught from a very young age that my opinions didn’t matter. Even when I was a teenager, I was chastised for having even an informed opinion. I was told that I didn’t know what I was talking about because I had no life experience. Ok, perhaps in some cases a young person (me included) wouldn’t know certain things for that reason, but does that mean a person can’t have or shouldn’t have an opinion? Apparently, that’s what my mother thought.

As an adult, my ex did the same thing to me but he did it in a sly manipulative way, being the narcissist he was. I felt like no matter what I said he’d have to correct me or question me in order to make me look like the dumb one. I had no voice of my own.

The internet has caused some major problems in that area as well. Every single time I share my opinion about something, someone always feels the need to inform me or use name calling while they tell me how wrong I am. I tend to get defensive! Can you blame me? Why can’t I just state my opinion and let it go at that? I have been told in the past that I’m “one of those people who need to be hanged” by someone who didn’t even know me. Even worse things have been said to me all because I had a different opinion!

The reason I’m writing this today is because I’m sure there are others who have felt the same or maybe feel this way right now. I have an idea that I’m working on that will allow people to state their opinion on certain subjects with the understanding that everyone will be respectful.

This blog series will be called “ViewPoint.” I’m still working out the details but once a week I’ll post a question regarding current events and I’ll share my opinion. Everyone will have the opportunity to share their opinion as well. There will be rules. The posts will be moderated, for obvious reasons. I want to create a safe place for people to use their voice!!! There will be no arguing, no name calling, no disrespect.

I’d like to know what you think, provided you’re respectful about it. So please be sure to comment below your thoughts! You can also use the Contact page to send me a private message. I look forward to your input!

18 thoughts on “ViewPoint Intro”

  1. a lot of times I don’t post certain things, no matter how much I agree with them, because of how society has become. they immediately attack if you don’t agree. we are all different, have different opinions and I think that’s part of what makes this country so great, or used too anyway. I think it’s a brave idea, it will have to be heavily moderated 😉 imho.

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  2. I think it’s a brilliant idea! And I’m sure that I’m in the majority when say I too have been called many unkind and judgmental things from people who don’t know me or bothered to find out why I think the way I do. Just like Becky/herbmama, I will too have to heavily moderated, lol. 🤔😉😎🧐

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        • I’m glad it’s not just me! I’ve tried posting on several blogs, the ones I follow the closest. It appears the comment has posted and then when I go back and check, it’s gone!! I’ve tried on 3 devices now; pc, tablet, and phone. Have not tried the laptop but what’s the point? Geez.

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          • I know right? Its so aggravating! I even googled it for WP and it says that some bloggers might be blocked. I’m like, well fuck me, but I know some of the blogs I follow haven’t blocked me, or have they? lol
            Either way it’s freaking annoying ;/

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          • I don’t know what the problem was. I emailed to customer support last night. Maybe they fixed the problem. Comments seem to be posting now. I didn’t think the blogs I follow more closely, like yours, would have blocked me so I knew that wasn’t the problem. I keep going back to check my comments to make sure they’re still there! Lol.

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          • I know, Deb, you’ve said that you can’t comment on my blog for some reason. I still haven’t figured that out. I have new people posting all of the time so it doesn’t make sense. I know I haven’t blocked anyone. Something else to talk to my website guy about. I’m not doing that right away, but when I get an answer, I’ll let you know. That is frustrating because it makes me wonder that if you can’t comment (and you’ve let me know), does that mean others can’t as well but they haven’t let me know? Ugh. Mona

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          • Right! I don’t know….but I do know that if I go directly to your blog there’s a comment box. But there’s no comment box when you go to the post through the Reader. That’s how I (and probably a lot of people) do it. I don’t always have time for that extra click, so your blog isn’t getting comments. 😦 I have the intention of going back later, but then I forget or just don’t have the time. So sorry!

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  3. Exactly. My parents never really told us to be quiet, but they would challenge us on points of our opinion. We could have an opinion, but so did every one else so you learned to be respectful. My Exes (all of them) silenced me because I had no right to question them at a;;, it seems.

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  4. I concur with Becky in that I generally keep my opinions to myself, because I don’t want to cause friction with my friends who may not agree with me on certain topics. I’ve seen relationships/friendships collapse over differing opinions on the usual no-no topics for discussion, which are religion and politics. I mean, parents and children basically disowning each other! It’s just ridiculous! I’d never have thought that people could get so wrapped up in politics to such a degree that families/friends will end their relationships with each other over it. That’s why I always steer very clear of those topics and never offer my opinions on either of those topics. I do have to limit what I talk about to my mom as well. She’s usually in disagreement with me 99.9% of the time on various topics, always has been. I’m used to it and just let her monopolize our conversations. She likes to argue to the point of raising her voice and yelling about things, whereas I don’t feel anyone needs to raise their voice or yell in order to get your point across. When people start yelling, I give up. I refuse to yell just to get my point across. I think that’s why I’ve always been perceived as a shy person, even in my childhood. I gave everyone else the floor to talk about what they want to talk about, because obviously I don’t know what the heck I’m talking about, right? So, I became a great observer and listener. 🙂 But, yeah, Deb, if you want to start a blog and want to hear everyone’s opinions, including mine, I’m up for it. But, I want you to promise me something…that if you don’t agree with my way of thinking on some/any of the topics you’re going to bring up, that it’s not going to change our friendship in any way, that we’ll still be lunch/crochet buddies. 🙂

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    • Thanks for your input. I understand about not wanting to cause friction but if people behave themselves and only comment what they think or believe and NOT respond to anyone else’s, then there shouldn’t be a problem. There will be rules. I’m sure I won’t agree with you on many things, I mean who ever agrees on everything? It’s not going to be a problem. 🙂

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  5. Deb, there are so many different kinds and strengths of personalities and so many different ways for people to express themselves. This should be interesting. I know I recently ended up in a really weird situation where different friends were on opposite sides, emotions ran high and I obliviously stepped in the poop, only realizing what was going on after it was too late. In the end, I felt it was mostly a misunderstanding; not that it mattered to those who were hurt. The whole thing made me sad. Still does. So I probably won’t put my two cents in on any political or other provocative topics. However, I look forward to what you have to say and others’ opinions. Hope it all goes the way you envision it! Mona

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    • Thanks for your input! I hope this goes well. If it doesn’t then it will end as quickly as it started. I just wish people would be a little more understanding of different opinions. I can handle different ideas but when it’s shoved down my throat or the opinion is not based on factual information, it drives me bonkers.

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  7. I think that is an excellent idea. Your problems with your mom and husband sound the same as mine was. Thank you for the post. And don’t listen to those foolish people who only have hate in their hearts but don’t take it personal, they are hurting also.❤️️🤗❤️️

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