I had my last appointment with my therapist last week. She gave me the head’s up a couple of months prior. She had been offered a wonderful opportunity and was working out the details with the powers that be. I was (and still am) thrilled for her because this seemed like exactly what she needed. I was also pretty bummed that after 6 years I would be alone in dealing with “the shit” life has thrown my way. Saying goodbye was not something I was looking forward to. I despise goodbyes! But I started thinking about how this is a goodbye to the psychologist but not to my friend. Dr. M has been more than just a psychologist. She has been my friend.
Dr. M has helped me to recover the tools I need to deal with the shit that has been thrown at me and any future shit coming my way. I had the tools all along but I forgot how to use them. She has helped me to realize that any guilt or shame that I carried (from certain events) were not mine to carry. She helped me to identify the toxic relationships in my life and gave me the courage to set boundaries and let go of those who weren’t respectful of those boundaries. I’ve learned many things from Dr. M and I am so grateful to have had her guidance for 6 years. It was awesome to share a few laughs along the way, too.
Someone asked me recently, “Are you ok? Do you feel abandoned?” The answer is, “Yes, I’m ok,” and an absolute “No, I don’t feel abandoned at all.” Dr. M will give me a referral if I need one. I know I’ll still be in touch with her because she’s my friend. I have her cell phone number and her email. I know I am stronger now and I have the tools to deal with the shit that flies in my direction. I’m not worried about my mental health anymore. I’m going to be just fine.
Before leaving my last appointment, (which began with so much laughter that my Dad heard us from the waiting area) Dr. M and I talked about having lunch sometime since we are no longer therapist/client. The appointment ended with a hug…and more laughter! It’s been great but now it’s on to bigger and better things for her… and I’m making some plans of my own.
Being Aunt Debbie 
Isn’t it funny how something like this can make you dig down and realize the strength you have. I am so proud of you saying “I’m going to be just fine.” She has prepared you well and I’m so happy for you. 🤗
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Thanks so much! I just have to remember to use the ‘tools’ I have when shit comes my way! 😀
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If you ever need to talk, I’m more than happy to lend an ear. We share many of the same issues and it’s really nice to know someone out there understands. Or, we could just talk cats. My psychologist and I talk dogs all the time. It’s very therapeutic! 🤗
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Thanks! That sounds awesome! I don’t know what I’m going to do without my psychologist!! I may need to bend your ear on occasion! And I am happy to be here for you as well. ❤
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Sorry, I’m so far behind in answering my comments. You can bend my ear anytime you want, my friend. Bend away! 🤗 ❤️
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sounds just wonderful my dear. you are much stronger than you used to be. much love, huggzzz always. I am here for you for always 😍😍😍
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Thanks so much dear sista! ❤
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I am presenting you with the “Atta Girl” Award! Yes, you are going to be fine!
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Thanks! ❤
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I went to my therapist really changed my life and in the last 10 years I always find comfort to know she was there fir me when I needed her but now she moved to england ,left me with a referral but some how I feel with her leaving an era has ended and I am ok so I’m glad you feel the same.😀💗
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It’s like losing a best friend because after all this person perhaps knows you as well if not better than you know yourself. I know I’ll be ok now, glad you will be too! ❤
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You are a strong woman and you will be ok💗
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